Entitled friend asks a friend to pick her up at the airport, changes the flight and arrival time without telling her and gets upset when the friend refuses to adjust to last minute changes: 'She felt like I'd left her stranded'

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Giuliana Tiscioni • Writer
Oct 4, 2026 12:30 PM EDT

Our friends are not our personal chauffeurs, and if they offer to do us a favor, we'd better respect their time and their other occupations. 

In this case, that didn't happen. A friend asked another friend to pick her up at the airport after a trip. The plane was supposed to arrive at 7pm, which was fine. On the day the plane was going to arrive, the friend called the traveler to confirm the schedule, after which the friend told her she had changed her flight and would be arriving at midnight. She had changed the flight days ago and never bothered to check on her friend to see if she could still pick her up. The friend told her that it was no longer possible for her to pick her up, since she had to get up early the next day for work, to which the other friend reacted badly, saying that she was "leaving her stranded."

Here we have a textbook case of entitlement. If the girl traveling never bothered to tell her friend that the time of arrival had changed, why did she assume it would be okay for her to pick her up anyway? She never consulted, never even let her know. She has no right to demand someone else spend their time how she wants it, or to do her favors just because. Everyone has a life, and we never know if the other person will be busy or have plans. No one can ask another person to accommodate their schedule or dispose of someone else's time as if it were theirs. All people have their own priorities and lives, and we're all busy. 

You can read the full story yourself and let us know what you think. Should the friend have gone to pick her up anyway? 

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  • AITJ for not picking up my friend from the airport after she changed her flight without telling me?

    A friend asked me a few week ago if I could pick her up from the airport after a trip. Her flight was supposed to arrive around 7pm,
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  • and I agreed because I wasn't working that evening. The day she was coming back, I texted her in the afternoon to make sure
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  • everything was still on time. That's when she told me she had changed her flight a few days earlier and would actually be arriving around midnight.
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  • I had work early the next morning, so I told her I couldn't realistically pick her up that late. I apologized and suggested she take an Uber or
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  • see if someone else was available. She got annoyed because apparently an Uber from the airport was pretty expensive. She
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  • said she had assumed changing the time wouldn't matter since I'd already agreed to pick her up. What bothered me was that she'd
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  • know about the change for days and never mentioned it. If she had asked before hand, I could have simply told her midnight wouldn't work.
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  • She eventually found another ride, but later told me she felt like I'd left her stranded when she was counting on me. I understand why she was frustrated, and part of me
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  • still feels bad because I originally said yes. But agreeing to 7pm didn't feel like agreeing to any possible arrival time. AITJ for refusing to pick her up?
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  • Elowen Misty I wasn't trying to leave her stranded. If she had told me when she changed the flight, we could've figured
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  • Outrageous_Rabbit842 NTJ she knew you'd balk... she just thought giving you such short notice you'd be guilted into doing it
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  • Consistent-Sport-481 You didn't refuse to pick her up, she changed the plans without any input. She's selfish and expected you to jump regardless.
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  • She wasn't stranded just didn't like the alternative. Definitely not the j rk.
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  • Oncer93 NTJ. Does she not realise that you have to get up early the next day. If she hadn't changed plans, you could have picked her up, no problem.
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